The dictionary meaning of the relationship is the way in which two or more people or things are connected or the state of being connected. Well. That’s quite true. You are connected with your family with blood relation. You are connected with your friends and close ones with the relationship of friendship. You are connected with your lover/spouse with the relationship of love. You are connected with your elders with the relationship of respect. Every moment of our life we are in and out of a relationship. We are in one even when you do your day to day routines like catching an auto, asking someone for help, doing business etc. which is why relationships are so important in your life. They are an inseparable part which you can never deny. People might tell, I don’t believe in relationships and commitments. I don’t want burdens and want to enjoy being single. That’s ridiculous. Why do you think a relationship is only between a man and woman physically, emotionally or sexually attracted to each other? Even if you go and desert yourself in an island, you are still in a relationship with nature and your surroundings. It is a gift of life which has been given to you.
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One of the greatest joys in life is the sharing of love and two people who love and value themselves and share their limited love multiplied by bounds. This is the beauty of relationships. They make you loving and caring. They make you want to change and improve for good. Good relationships are like water – no color, no smell, no taste, but still very important for life.
When two people enter a relationship with the desire to learn and grow with each other, they can help each other to overcome their fears and weaknesses and develop on what they are really good at. What’s more? You get a support system and great company. Ask the value of a relationship to an orphan. Ask the value of a friend to a lonely, depressed or even a person who is a bachelor. Ask the value of love to a single mother or even a child without a sibling. Ask the value of compassion to a social worker or a civil servant working for the betterment of this world. Ask the value of the company to a person in an old age home or a mentally challenged person. We do not realize the value of something until we lose it. We lose our loved ones due to circumstances and then later feel bad about it or regret it.
Relation means to help without hesitation,
To give without expectation,
To love without limitation and
To remember even without communication.
-Pujya Gurudev Shri. Rakesh Zaveri
What a beautiful saying by this spiritual luminary. To make any relationship successful all you need to do is help each other (or the whole world for that matter) without any expectations. If you expect thank you, gifts, love, and affection and help back from them, you are only doing a business with a give and take policy. You are not into a true relation. Being self-centered makes us insensitive to others. You should not think what benefit will I get from helping this person? Why should I help him when he didn’t help me when I wanted? You should not limit your love and compassion to the ones you like or the ones who helped and can help you. Your love must extend to the whole universe. If only we could realize this, there wouldn’t be so many wars!
A good relationship is like a see-saw. It’s not only for fun but it means saying with a smile – “I don’t mind going down to see you rise “
-Pujya Gurudev Rakesh Zaveri
The reason why relationships have issues creeping up is the ego we bring in. did you know that ego is having a wrong notion about yourself? This is why ego does not only mean thinking high and superior of yourself. Thinking low about yourself and being under-confident is also ego. An inverted ego. While you think the first kind spoils everything, you do not know that the second one is equally a threat. Which is why never have an ego in your relationship. You may think that this is hard to do. Yes .it is. But it’s not impossible. You need patience, practice and the determination for it. Open your ‘eye’ and close your ‘I’. Never hold your head too high with ego. Even the winner of a gold medal has to bend to accept it.
Everybody wishes to go back and repair their past which is impossible. But nobody is prepared to construct their future which is possible.
You always regret and whine on what has already happened. Time which cannot be reversed, you keep thinking about it. That how different would it be if I had done or not done that thing? My only advice is, let go. We do not have the habit of letting go of our past and focus on the future which is our main problem. Even if it’s not going good or has come to an end, don’t cling onto it. Try to think logically with a calm mind about what is the next step to be taken. Life is like a flute. It may have many holes and emptiness, but if you work on it carefully, it can play magical melodies. There is always a hope and an end. You can look at it as a hopeless end or an endless hope.
Never make your relationships a show business. Be genuine.
The best thing about Romeo and Juliet and the recent couple goals, barrack and Michelle Obama (they are my personal favorites) is that they are always genuine. They never did anything for the world. They didn’t care about the society and its ridiculous norms and followed just their heart. This is why people still remember and adore them. They were true to their feelings and down to earth in that. Don’t give importance to money and fame. Realize the preciousness of emotions. True love is not loving a perfect person. It’s loving an imperfect person perfectly.
Also, a relationship without trust is like a car without petrol. You can stay in it but it won’t go anywhere. A beautiful relationship does not depend on how we understand someone. But it depends on how well we avoid the misunderstandings.
Reference: SpeakingTree (this spiritual luminary is just unbelievable)