We all have heard the saying “don’t judge a book by its cover” and totally agreed with it. Then we came across a totally opposing saying, “ The first impression is the best impression”. You probably didn’t realize the ironic part in this. How can someone not judge a person’s personality merely by the way he/she looks and at the same time focus mainly on how he/she appears when you first meet them? This is the reality or rather humour of our society. It asks you to be more open-minded but then declares you off-limits or out of limits when you actually try to follow them.
But why is our society so obsessed with fair skin, size zero, perfectly combed hair, camera friendly face and toothbrush ad perfect smile? I remember how Michelle obama was criticized for not being fair and not meeting the beauty standards. (I won’t use words like black/dark when we want to wipe out such stereotypes and negativity. we start with talking positive). not only that , people like shahrukh khan , priyanka chopra , nawazuddin siddiqi , rihanna , kanye west and oprah winfrey too faced the criticism We’ve reached a time when a person who gets the right steps (including being born into celebrity family) can be kind of a big deal without actually doing much of anything.
Which is why, today in this article, I will tell you guys how to judge someone’s personality by ways other than looks. Since we obviously need to get over it.
Observe Body Language Cues
Do they hold their head high, confident? Or do they walk indecisively or cower, a sign of low self-esteem? Do they swagger with a puffed out chest, a sign of a big ego? According to a research, Crossed arms and legs signal resistance to your ideas. Your mouth can easily lie but your eyes can’t. Also, genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling the skin .so the next time you want to know if someone’s smile is genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes. The amount and type of eye contact they make is an awesome indicator. One peculiar point is that raised eyebrows signal discomfort.
There are three main emotions that make your eyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear. Find out which one was up this time. Another interesting thing is that when you’re telling someone something and they nod excessively, this means that they are anxious and worried about what you think of them or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions.
DID YOU KNOW? Research has shown that words account for only seven percent of how we communicate whereas our body language (55 percent) and voice tone (30 percent) represent the rest.
Trusting your intuition
If you want to understand someone, what counts the most is who the person is, rather than what he looks to be. Intuition lets you see further than the obvious to reveal secrets. Like the moment when you are going to do something risky and you get an inner feeling to stop right away. In conversations, you may get an “ah-ha” about people which comes in a flash. Stay alert. You can just get a feeling that the opposite person is just lying, boasting or even exaggerating facts. You can judge who to trust and maintain contacts with and who not just after a 5 min talk.
Write your own future
Graphologists know a very fun technique to judge a person- Through their handwriting. People who write large letters are generally the centre of attention, outspoken and sadly emit false confidence. People who use medium size letters are generally shy, studious and meticulous. And people writing small (literally like an ant) are well adjusting and adaptable. People who write wide spacing sentences enjoy freedom while narrow spacing ones do not. Also, the way someone writes “e, l, o, l, s, y “tells a lot. The amount of slant and the pressure put in writing is also a unique factor.
Good shoes take you to good places
This is a saying I heard in Korean dramas (yeah. I’m a Korean drama addict). Psychologists from the University of Kansas found that the style, value, colour and condition of the footwear can paint a picture of the owner’s emotional, political and other vital personality traits. Even in Bollywood movies, we see that they find out that a person is a cop by looking at his shoes. This is why People tend to pay attention to the shoes they and others wear.
It’s all in the handshake
I was literally laughing when a few days back a popular news channel was analyzing Prime MiNarendraarendra Modi’s handshake with his counterparts like Putin, trump etc. but now I came to know that a simple handshake can also give out a lot about you ( but this is not the first time I’m getting trolled. So it’s ok). Which is why a great handshake is not too firm, not too limp, but just right. This can either be your deal maker or deal breaker. So, the next time watch that hand of yours!
DID YOU KNOW? Your signature style can also reveal a lot about you. To know more, check out http://www.writechoice.co.in/writechoice/2009/06/signatures/
So hope you all understood my point about how the physical appearance does matter but not that much and not always. So what are you waiting for? Go try these techniques on someone you are truly curious about.
Best of luck!